If you can't remember, do it now.
Be aware of how you feel after saying this to yourself. If you experience any negative emotions or disbelief, just acknowledge it and let it float away. If you can't even bring yourself to say it, it's okay. I'm pretty sure that you would be able to do it some day.
Maybe today's not the day, but one day you would - because, in Britney Spears' words, it's (your) prerogative.
Haha random vid :P
We always try to find out what attracts people and what repels them. Then we'd look at ourselves and realize how "screwed up" we are because we don't fit perfectly into this mold that we have created from what we ASSUME that people want.
I used to be in love with a guy who had a thing for stick-thin girls - or maybe I should rephrase: I used to be in love with a guy who, I assume, had a thing for stick-thin girls. I obviously wasn't stick thin. I'm freaking mesomorph; it's impossible for me to be stick thin & mentally/physically healthy.
Why he fell for me a mystery. Why we dated for so long is yet another mystery. But long story short - I tried to fit myself into his "perfect girl" image at the expense of myself; which prematurely ended the entire relationship. It's so strange, isn't it? I wasn't me. I looked into the mirror and I just couldn't see myself.
I spent the last 2+ years healing and finding myself & I'm surprise by what I've found. Here are three major things that I've picked up in this process:
1. My body - the way my face looks, the places that my fats accumulate, the amount of muscle that I have, etc. is, to a large extent, beyond my control.
If you like it, great. If you don't, you might want to consider staying away from me - physically and emotionally.
If it appeals to you, welcome to my life. If it doesn't, it's perfectly fine with me.
2. If it makes you happy, do it. If it doesn't, forget it.
Would it matter to me months/years later? If yes, I'm going for it. If not, it's not worth my time & energy.
3. Take care of yourself before you try to take care of other people.
A simple example: If you don't sleep enough, you'd wake up tired and moody, your emotions and productivity would suffer & the people working and living with you would have to unfairly bear the consequences of your lack of self-discipline.
Happiness is contagious. People can sense it and people are easily influenced by it.
What happens if you were to dig deep within yourself?
What would you find?
What would you do with what you find?
If we're secure about our worth as individual human beings and understand the very fact that you are ridiculously valuable & precious and worth every ounce of love in this world, I believe that our relationships would be much stronger & easier to sustain. It seems to me, that insecurity in relationships tend to stem from insecurity from oneself.
If you're insecure with yourself, you'll never ever be secure in any relationship;
no matter how hard your partner tries.